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Young men reveal why so many of them are single: ‘Dates feel more like job interviews’

Nobody_Important

Nobody_Important

“Aww, it’s so...average,” she said to him in a cold brick of passion
People in general are relying too many outside sources to find themselves a partner instead of just living their life and finding one along the way which has been the standard for most of history. COVID compounded this mindset and it has become a mental disease basically.


I am currently single, but would at some point like to settle down with someone who also does not want kids. I'm not forcing it though. I go to conventions, concerts, bars, State Fairs, etc etc with friends and I will just poke around and flirt. I'll run into flings and one night stands like everyone else, but eventually I might find someone that fits my lifestyle and my interests along the way. Or I won't. Which would suck, but I am not going to put my whole life and mental health into an app or social media site and hope that it spits out my life partner on the other end.


People just need to GET THE FUCK OUT and mix with people of their age group or of the age group they are interested in courting. (No judging for those that want cougars. You do you man. Experience over beauty sometimes. Been there. Fucking GREAT.)
 
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Peggies

Peggies

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Is It Safe Peek A Boo GIF by Bounce

So the crazy men hating Lady is gone?
 
Bojji

Bojji

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Sonik said:
I'm sure anyone who has been in a workplace that is majority women can attest that this is one of the dumbest posts in existence. The backstabbing and drama I witnessed there was almost comical
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Most of my jobs in last 10 years were in places where only few males worked and majority of workers were woman. I can 100% agree with your post.

Sometimes it's weird to see the amount of toxicity between females, it's not common for males and men usually end this kind of grudges fighting each other or drinking beer (sometimes both).
 
The Skull

The Skull

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Tried online dating a few years ago pre COVID on all the popular apps, tinder, POF etc. Worst experiences of the dating world I've ever had.

I'd say about 1, maybe 2 out of 10 matches were women that didn't start the convos asking about height, money, what car I drove or any other metric that could be used to determine my worth, with an alarming amount becoming aggressive if I wasn't just looking for a hook up. These were women in the 25-30 age range.

Not to paint with broad strokes as I dislike mass generalisations but that's been my experience of online dating as a guy.
 
darrylgorn

darrylgorn

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AJUMP23 said:
I think people women are so self absorbed through social media that they don't really know themselves or what they want. They want a rich person or something they see on TV.
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FTFY

Women are independent now. They have enough money to take care of themselves.

The next logical step is to find someone who they truly get along with but a lot of them haven't evolved to this stage yet.

They're still stuck in a mysogonist tradition of looking for someone who's 'above' them, and this is an existential contradiction in our egalitarian society.
 
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Woggleman

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darrylgorn said:
FTFY

Women are independent now. They have enough money to take care of themselves.

The next logical step is to find someone who they truly get along with but a lot of them haven't evolved to this stage yet.

They're still stuck in a mysogonist tradition of looking for someone who's 'above' them, and this is an existential contradiction in our egalitarian society.
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From what I have observed is that those independent I don't need a man types are usually the worst about wanting a man to stick to his gender roles. Some of them even make up feminist excuses for it by saying that a man paying for everything is payback for the wage gap or something.

There is no consistency and the sad thing is that there are plenty of men willing to do it.
 
German Hops

German Hops

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Nobody_Important said:
People in general are relying too many outside sources to find themselves a partner instead of just living their life and finding one along the way which has been the standard for most of history. COVID compounded this mindset and it has become a mental disease basically.


I am currently single, but would at some point like to settle down with someone who also does not want kids. I'm not forcing it though. I go to conventions, concerts, bars, State Fairs, etc etc with friends and I will just poke around and flirt. I'll run into flings and one night stands like everyone else, but eventually I might find someone that fits my lifestyle and my interests along the way. Or I won't. Which would suck, but I am not going to put my whole life and mental health into an app or social media site and hope that it spits out my life partner on the other end.


People just need to GET THE FUCK OUT and mix with people of their age group or of the age group they are interested in courting. (No judging for those that want cougars. You do you man. Experience over beauty sometimes. Been there. Fucking GREAT.)
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darrylgorn

darrylgorn

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Woggleman said:
From what I have observed is that those independent I don't need a man types are usually the worst about wanting a man to stick to his gender roles. Some of them even make up feminist excuses for it by saying that a man paying for everything is payback for the wage gap or something.

There is no consistency and the sad thing is that there are plenty of men willing to do it.
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Agreed.

There's an optimistic silver lining to this in that they will eventually catch on and stop acting like it's medieval times or the 50s.

Just takes time.
 
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Moneal

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darrylgorn said:
Agreed.

There's an optimistic silver lining to this in that they will eventually catch on and stop acting like it's medieval times or the 50s.

Just takes time.
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No they won't. Women in general want a man that pays for dinner and does the traditional gender role things. They also only complain when some inequality doesn't benefit them. When they are the beneficiary of inequality they will jump through hoops mentally to keep it, like paying for the first date.

Ask women are they OK being the main earner in the household they will say yes and complain about the pay gap. Yet , women are not marrying or even dating down in income. Infact, we see article after article of women complaining they can't find a man who is on their level financially.

22% of women won't even consider dating someone who makes less than them. 70% wouldn't want to to pay all the bills. Compare those numbers to men and it's just 4% of men who won't date down, financially and 50% who wouldn't pay all the bills.
 
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darrylgorn said:
Be thankful we don't promote obesity in men. We have enough problems with the bullshit around excessive drinking and smoking, let women delude themselves on this one.
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Obesity should be shunned full stop but because it affects the wahmens it is now considered a socially acceptable lifestyle choice. Worse yet, it is being peddled as a healthy alternative to having a normal BMI or body fat.
 
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StreetsofBeige

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OZ9000 said:
Why do we see promotion of plus size women but no fat dudes? Think about it.
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Because in general, guys dont care or get depressed at being fat and laughed at. Women do. Every person knows it's healthier to eat right and work out to be lean, but tell a guy to smarten up and they wont care or complain. Tell overweight women to eat less and work out, and you get labeled a fat or women hater. Yet, you never see someone called a fat or man hater for telling fat dudes to shape up.

Going beyond magazine covers, you see it in general movies and tv show media. Most of the comedic relief characters (laughed at for being fat, annoying, ugly, nerdy etc...) are almost always guys. Just think what people would say if it were mostly women who were the target for juvenile laughs at being unattractive and picked on. Youd get a lot more hell and criticism and complaints. But make the comedic relief characters men and it's all hilarious content.
 
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Moneal

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StreetsofBeige said:
Going beyond magazine covers, you see it in general movies and tv show media. Most of the comedic relief characters (laughed at for being fat, annoying, ugly, nerdy etc...) are almost always guys. Just think what people would say if it were mostly women who were the target for juvenile laughs at being unattractive and picked on. Youd get a lot more hell and criticism and complaints. But make the comedic relief characters men and it's all hilarious content.
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This wasn't always the case. Look at Rosanne or even more recently Melissa Mccarthy. It's such a recent issue. At least on TV and movies.

Now it is much more common for females to be highly competent and males, especially fathers, to be bumbling idoits. My littlest one watches Peppa Pig and the dad on it is a total idiot. He gets stuck in slides, falls out of airplanes, lies in cement until it dries and so much more completely idiotic things. The mother on the other hand is almost always level headed and a problem solver.
 
Claus Grimhildyr

Claus Grimhildyr

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NotMyProblemAnymoreCunt said:
Instead of LadyJane, she should be called PretentiousJane :p
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99% sure she was an alt of a former prominent member who was mass banned for being a twit. Not surprised she would come back to further seek attention. What she didn't seem to realize is that all the incels were taken out alongside her, so not many people were dumb enough to fall for her shtick.
 
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vodka-bull

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RJMacready73 said:
Yeah fuck that, if the wife and I ever split, I'm staying single and getting a fucking dog
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Get the dog now, in the beginning it takes a fuckton of time to train him to good behavior and it‘s way easier for 2 people, then after he’s done with puberty she can leave you whenever she wants.
 
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Ashes

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Moneal said:
This wasn't always the case. Look at Rosanne or even more recently Melissa Mccarthy. It's such a recent issue. At least on TV and movies.

Now it is much more common for females to be highly competent and males, especially fathers, to be bumbling idoits. My littlest one watches Peppa Pig and the dad on it is a total idiot. He gets stuck in slides, falls out of airplanes, lies in cement until it dries and so much more completely idiotic things. The mother on the other hand is almost always level headed and a problem solver.
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Just lazy programming
 
darrylgorn

darrylgorn

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Moneal said:
No they won't. Women in general want a man that pays for dinner and does the traditional gender role things. They also only complain when some inequality doesn't benefit them. When they are the beneficiary of inequality they will jump through hoops mentally to keep it, like paying for the first date.

Ask women are they OK being the main earner in the household they will say yes and complain about the pay gap. Yet , women are not marrying or even dating down in income. Infact, we see article after article of women complaining they can't find a man who is on their level financially.

22% of women won't even consider dating someone who makes less than them. 70% wouldn't want to to pay all the bills. Compare those numbers to men and it's just 4% of men who won't date down, financially and 50% who wouldn't pay all the bills.
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Maybe I'm an optimist but I just can't believe people are dumb enough to hurt themselves like this forever.
 
Cyberpunkd

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Artoris said:
I miss the days when computers were only for nerds
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The same nerds that when given prominence turned out to be socially awkward, and shit to women, which is the very reason they were labelled 'nerds' to begin with? These ones?
Thirty7ven said:
The appfication of relationships has turned it into a data driven enterprise. Robotic shit.
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It has always been like that but in a more informal manner. Now you have hard data to confirm what everybody knows - be handsome/beautiful and have money, you will score.

Although it is interesting to branch out and discuss why the society criticizes women based on their looks but 'dad bod' is a thing.
 
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Kenpachii

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jason10mm said:
I see clips from this guy all the time but have never watched an extended segment. Either this guy went out of his way to find the DUMBEST WOMEN IMAGINABLE or these ladies were there for some other context and got ambushed by these questions and are reluctant to engage. Is this show worth watching for more than a 30 second Gotcha! as he runs rings about IQ 30 thots?
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Pretty much i interact with a lot of woman and i can tell you, these girls are fucking retarded and he aimed for those specifically clearly.
 
daffyduck

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Cyberpunkd said:
The same nerds that when given prominence turned out to be socially awkward, and shit to women, which is the very reason they were labelled 'nerds' to begin with? These ones?
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Socially awkward, book smart, and "geeky" hobbies, whatever those happen to be at the time.

Nothing to do with misogyny. Nerds can also be women.
 
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