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Why are guys so stingy?
- Thread starter Waychel
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I need to find a girl that buys into excuses this lame.Waychel said:
"Looks like we're eating Krystal again tonight hun....what with the gas prices being so high and all."
Sounds like you were so poorly treated in your first relationship that you are able to put up with all manner of jackassery from the new guy (so long as hr doesn't cross the lines that his predecessor did).
I'd say that the act of debating with me alone over the extent of my romantic relationship (which Mike knows nothing about) is indication enough that he cares about my sex life/lack thereof to some extent. If he didn't, why would he be arguing with me over it to the point where he's now threatening to ban me because of it? Most people, if a person clarified what their romantic relationship was, wouldn't further argue the issue with the person if they didn't care about it for some reason or another. They'd realize that they had wrongfully assumed as to the specifics and just drop the issue. Actions (his debating) speak louder than words to me. I'd say that my assumption of his intentions is more educated than his was in alluding to that he knew anything about the level of intimacy in my relationship to begin with.
Shouta
Member
Waychel said:
He didn't ask you go to into detail about your sexual history as shown by this quote.
Mike Works said:
This is what you said.
Waychel said:
Waychel said:
He's calling you on altering your story to get cover your ass and deflect some flak you're getting. You then get mad at him, try to change the subject, and then start putting words in his mouth to save face. You're being a bonehead, plain and simple Waychel.
TAJ
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
>>>>Even if she shouldn't have compared him to another girl's boyfriend (which I agree was a stupid move), that's a pretty lame excuse for not buying anything. I mean, you two have been together for a year. It's your friggin' birthday. You're his girlfriend.<<<
No. There's a word for someone you hang out with a lot, but don't fuck. It's "friend".
A relationship without relations is just a "-hip".
There's a word for someone who calls herself your girlfriend for a year, but hasn't fucked you, also. It's "tease". (see also: "attention whore")
And, if girls give presents to guys they love, (outside something small on birthday or Christmas) I've never met anyone in my life who had a girl love them.
No. There's a word for someone you hang out with a lot, but don't fuck. It's "friend".
A relationship without relations is just a "-hip".
There's a word for someone who calls herself your girlfriend for a year, but hasn't fucked you, also. It's "tease". (see also: "attention whore")
And, if girls give presents to guys they love, (outside something small on birthday or Christmas) I've never met anyone in my life who had a girl love them.
It depends on the girl. I've known one girl like that, and my sister is like that to the extreme. She's in a sort of pseudo-relationships/friendship with this one guy, and a while back when she was still "crushing" on him she bought him a drumset. A fucking drumset. I was blown away. She also bought her ex a shitload of stuff.TAJ said:
Mama Smurf
My penis is still intact.
frolet said:
Oh fuck off.
TAJ said:There's a word for someone you hang out with a lot, but don't fuck. It's "friend".
A relationship without relations is just a "-hip".
There's a word for someone who calls herself your girlfriend for a year, but hasn't fucked you, also. It's "tease". (see also: "attention whore")
DING DING. Exactly right.
Well I'm sure you realize you realize you're talking to an all male audience here. I seriously doubt ANY of us, no matter how desperate or patient, would have a self-called girlfriend for a freaking YEAR, receive no action, and still be with them.
I mean, that's the first thing we think of because of how goddamn ridiculous it sounds to us.
This thread would have been a lot better off from your standpoint had you left that whole thing out of your original post.
Mike Works
Member
THANK YOUShouta said:
I thought everyone was taking god damn crazy pills.
Tell you what Waychel, if you agree with Shouta's above assessment, I'll call the whole ruthless account termination thing off. Whaddya say!
Date of Lies
Banned
Who's the one that first brought up your sex life anyway? :lol
Most men are tight with their money for a reason-- they want to avoid golddiggers. Plus, if he gave in on this occasion, you'd probably use the same exact routine on him to get something else. That's probably how he perceived it. Plus, if he wants to buy you something, then he will. He doesn't want to be 'forced' to buy you something and make it seems like love has a price. Imagine if he came up to you and said "Ryan's girl lost 7 pounds. Why don't you do the same thing? What? You're saying no? You must not love me if you can't lose a measely 7 pounds for me." People don't want to be forced to do something to 'show that they love you.'
Maybe I'm not like most guys or something, but I have no freaking time to sit around and decipher hints. I don't know how it was the guy's fault. He hasn't gotten sex in the relationship and it's already been a year. So how the hell is he just supposed to assume that his girl asking him to buy a thong is a hint for, "Maybe you can hit these skins!"? Thongs aren't necessarily synonymous with sex, ESPECIALLY when you aren't getting any from the girl. The guy probably thought that she just wants some cute new underwear and is asking him to buy some.
Now if she asked him to buy her a sex toy and he didn't get the hint, then he'd be dense. But women, stop with these freaking hints and be a little more direct. If you're going to come at the guy with a catalogue out of nowhere and ask him to buy a thong, at least rub on his package and say it in a sexy voice or something to make your intentions more directly known.
Now if she asked him to buy her a sex toy and he didn't get the hint, then he'd be dense. But women, stop with these freaking hints and be a little more direct. If you're going to come at the guy with a catalogue out of nowhere and ask him to buy a thong, at least rub on his package and say it in a sexy voice or something to make your intentions more directly known.
Forgotten_Taco
Member
Without reading anything but the first post, it's not just guys. My last girlfriend I paid for everything except lunch, one time, when she treated me. In short, some people are stingy and has nothing to do with gender.
Edit: I think if I was him and after a year, we hadn't had sex, I would just assume you weren't interested in me and moved on. Actually it would probably happen a lot sooner than a year, we'll say 6months tops.
Edit: I think if I was him and after a year, we hadn't had sex, I would just assume you weren't interested in me and moved on. Actually it would probably happen a lot sooner than a year, we'll say 6months tops.
Sorry, but your relationship is fucked up.
You were friends before, and even after a year together you don't have the desire to have sex with him? Just because you got screwed (no pun intended) by your last boyfriend? Even more ridiculous is the fact that he doesn't have the balls to have sex with you. But i guess if i had a girl who paid for a bunch of my shit, and rarely had to do anything for her, I would still have some consolation.
Only explanation is that both of you can't attract anybody else. Or you're a joke character.
cue the Cubsfan bashing posts
The funny thing is that her girlfriends are probably more perplexed than us. Girls talk about this stuff more than us.
You were friends before, and even after a year together you don't have the desire to have sex with him? Just because you got screwed (no pun intended) by your last boyfriend? Even more ridiculous is the fact that he doesn't have the balls to have sex with you. But i guess if i had a girl who paid for a bunch of my shit, and rarely had to do anything for her, I would still have some consolation.
Only explanation is that both of you can't attract anybody else. Or you're a joke character.
cue the Cubsfan bashing posts
The funny thing is that her girlfriends are probably more perplexed than us. Girls talk about this stuff more than us.
Mama Smurf
My penis is still intact.
I don't even find thongs sexy. Doubt I'm the only one. They wouldn't indicate sex to me, girls seem to just wear them like any other sort of underwear generally.
Of course, in this situation i'd have been happy that my girl wanted to kink things up in any way to any degree.
Of course, in this situation i'd have been happy that my girl wanted to kink things up in any way to any degree.
kevm3 said:
Unfortunately girls will never stop communicating through hints and mixed messages (especially about sex.) And unfortunately we have to deal with it if we want to fuck them. I still maintain that that was a fairly obvious hint and that this guy is a fucking moron for getting mad about anything at that point.
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Deleted member 1235
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Man if it was my birthday coming up and my girlfriend said "Hey how about you buy me a thong for your birthday" I would say "How bought you buy a thong for yourself, and wear that shit on my birthday?"
I also wouldn't like to be compared to someone elses boyfriend. but then, I'm a fucking terrific boyfriend, so that's not gonna be happening.
I also wouldn't like to be compared to someone elses boyfriend. but then, I'm a fucking terrific boyfriend, so that's not gonna be happening.
I'm not saying that he should have necessarily bought her the underwear if he actually had a problem with spending 10 dollars (which I doubt), but getting mad at her was a bonehead move. Or maybe he's just afraid of having sex? That would make sense considering the information we already have.
BTW What the fuck is heavy petting?
BTW What the fuck is heavy petting?
I agree. Thongs do nothing for me. I don't understand the appeal.Mama Smurf said:
I think no matter how you cut it, this specific request for a gift is wrong. It's either a random request for him to buy you your underwear, or some kind of payment for a sexual encounter with you (I don't see any reason for him to believe you'd suddenly jump for actual intercourse, which of course, would apparently be correct). The big problem is that you have the nerve to ask, hell, demand that he buy thongs for you. Who requests a gift?
All in all though, I think you're both screwed up and you probably deserve each other. My sixth grade relationship sounds a lot more eventful and healthy than yours does.
Thongs aren't all that sexy to me either. I just don't give a damn about them. They look sleazy on a lot of chicks, especially when you see them hanging all out of the back of their jeans. I like women in more traditional types of panties, and no, not granny panties... But panties that don't consist of floss running into a girl's ass. They look especially terrible if the girl has no ass.
I'd be a moron too in that scenario then. If a girl I was with hasn't given it up to me FOR A YEAR! A YEAR! A YEAR!!!! AHHH!! then her asking me to buy her some new underwear wouldn't shoot off signals in my head that she wants to "get petted" or something. That's kind of like me taking a virgin out to the grocery store and buying her a bottle of chocolate syrup and getting mad when she doesn't get the hint that I want her to give me a hot, sloppy blowjob.
I'd be a moron too in that scenario then. If a girl I was with hasn't given it up to me FOR A YEAR! A YEAR! A YEAR!!!! AHHH!! then her asking me to buy her some new underwear wouldn't shoot off signals in my head that she wants to "get petted" or something. That's kind of like me taking a virgin out to the grocery store and buying her a bottle of chocolate syrup and getting mad when she doesn't get the hint that I want her to give me a hot, sloppy blowjob.
Drinky Crow
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This thread gets the Drinky Crow Seal of Approval as well as a GAF Troll Magazine score of 89.
From the review: "A feisty law student tries to justify her conservative princess lifestyle to GAF, with temperate results despite a delightfully inflammatory title. However, a guest star appearance by local maestro Michael Orlando sends the laugh factor through the roof as our little legal eagle has to take the stand for a Canuckian cross-examination. Hijinks ensue, a ban is threatened, suspicions of jewry arise, thong-haters emerge from the closet, Cubsfan weighs in, and finally, Banmaster Tim arrives in court to drop the gavel. Only a lack of Nintendogs, olimario's penis, or the v-card keeps this thread from achieving the big prize. Certainly, this heady bouquet of personalities at war gets an archive-worthy score of 89."
From the review: "A feisty law student tries to justify her conservative princess lifestyle to GAF, with temperate results despite a delightfully inflammatory title. However, a guest star appearance by local maestro Michael Orlando sends the laugh factor through the roof as our little legal eagle has to take the stand for a Canuckian cross-examination. Hijinks ensue, a ban is threatened, suspicions of jewry arise, thong-haters emerge from the closet, Cubsfan weighs in, and finally, Banmaster Tim arrives in court to drop the gavel. Only a lack of Nintendogs, olimario's penis, or the v-card keeps this thread from achieving the big prize. Certainly, this heady bouquet of personalities at war gets an archive-worthy score of 89."
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Deleted member 1235
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masud said:
Fingering chicks bro.
Fingering chicks.
/highschool
LOL! I've been with my gf for 10 years, and not once has she asked me to buy her a pair of panties :lol I buy my own underwear and socks, and so does she.
She has thongs, lo-rise and lingerie, but it's all bough discreetly and used to pleasantly surprise me.
I'm also glad he said no, comparing him to another guy is a cardinal sin in the book of love...
She has thongs, lo-rise and lingerie, but it's all bough discreetly and used to pleasantly surprise me.
I'm also glad he said no, comparing him to another guy is a cardinal sin in the book of love...
onion_pixy
Member
a few pro tips for Waychel, from a fellow girl. I guess I know what its like to be in your position. Ive made more (usually a lot) $$$ than every guy Ive ever dated
1. NEVER ask a man to buy lingerie. It wont fit right and it will probably be ugly. Buy it and suprise him with it. If he dosent reciprocate your gifts, kick his ass to the curb. You get what you give or move on. If you're both cheap/generous then cool, but it should be about even either way.
2. DONT buy pink lingerie. From my experience guys rarely like it. Red or black seems to be the most popular. Fredricks>>>>>>>Victorias Secret.
3. A year without sex? OMGWTF? no tip here, just shock. I dated a religious guy for a bit. He wanted to "get to know me first". After a month of him not putting out I kicked his ass to the curb. What if you waste all that time and you two arent compatible? ugh.
1. NEVER ask a man to buy lingerie. It wont fit right and it will probably be ugly. Buy it and suprise him with it. If he dosent reciprocate your gifts, kick his ass to the curb. You get what you give or move on. If you're both cheap/generous then cool, but it should be about even either way.
2. DONT buy pink lingerie. From my experience guys rarely like it. Red or black seems to be the most popular. Fredricks>>>>>>>Victorias Secret.
3. A year without sex? OMGWTF? no tip here, just shock. I dated a religious guy for a bit. He wanted to "get to know me first". After a month of him not putting out I kicked his ass to the curb. What if you waste all that time and you two arent compatible? ugh.
I've never been in a relationship before, but Waychel, the solutions to your problems scream USE COMMON SENSE, NOT A MESSAGE BOARD.
Obviously. Especially him.
Okay, unless you aren't being truthful with us (which, thanks to Mike, you really haven't been but that's a slightly different aspect of this fiasco), it seems like you are a really easy-going, understanding girlfriend and you don't expect your boyfriend to spend tons of money on you all the time. Assuming this is the case, your boyfriend is an asshole, and pretty stupid for not getting the hint (or pretending not to) and not wanting to buy you a thong for ten fucking dollars. The first reply in this thread says what I want to. He's a bonehead and/or gay and/or afraid. (I think one or all three of these confirms that he's insane.)
Again, I would understand this reaction if you want him to buy you stuff all the time, but it doesn't seem that way, so this further proves the point that he's probably thick-headed, stubborn, afraid, and possibly gay! Lame reaction.
Did you even need to write this? You've bought things for him for a birthday gift, never expect anything in return or even randomly (at least according to what you said here), and spend money on your family. This guy bitches and moans about $10 underwear. Sounds like you're attached to a guy that doesn't like you as much as you may think OR is what I have twice noted above. You'll have to figure that out, but either way it just sounds like this guy is not right for you.
Comparing your relationship to other people's was kind of lame, but then again, it was about something for $10. His lack of appreciation is kind of alarming... especially since he won't buy a thong for you. If you were asking for a car, or a $300 necklace, or an expensive vacation -- something like that -- I'd understand his reasoning. But for $10? Come on. If you have been together for a year now and this is still an issue, the writing's on the wall. I shouldn't have even needed to point these things out to you. Most guys would get the hint before you were even done asking, believe me. Common sense, not GAF, is the key here Waychel. Don't live in denial because maybe, just maybe your boyfriend doesn't care as much for you as you once thought.
brooklyngooner
Member
Drinky Crow said:
I would have thought though that a lack of hastily-arranged photoshops would have dragged the score down a bit further.
Date of Lies
Banned
onion_pixy said:
What?? Pink panties are the bomb. Light blue comes in a close second.
onion_pixy
Member
I wasnt talking about panties Point taken tho.
Point taken tho.